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“Installing” love in your heart

I received this from a friend of mine and loved it…hope you do too…Jerilynne “MamaRed”

Technical Support: Yes, … how can I help you?

Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?

Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready. What do I do first?

Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?

Tech Support: What programs are running ?

Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.

Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own called High Self-Esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Can you turn those off ?

Customer: I don’t know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how?

Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Is that normal?

Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. You need to begin connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, “Error – Program not run on external components.” What should I do?

Tech Support: Don’t worry. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.

Customer: So, what should I do?

Tech Support: Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files: Forgive-Self; Realize Your Worth; and Acknowledge your Limitations.

Customer: Okay, done.

Tech Support: Now, copy them to the “My Heart” directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also, you need to delete Verbose Self-Criticism from all directories and empty your Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.

Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files. Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over My Heart. Is this normal?

Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes awhile, but eventually everything gets it at the proper time. So Love is installed and running. One more thing before we hang up. Love is Freeware. Be sure to give it and its various modules to everyone you meet. They will in turn share it with others and return some cool modules back to you.

Customer: Thank you, God.

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Kindness Starts at Home–Yours!

Lately I’ve been on this kick of watching HGTV…several of the shows fascinate me even though I don’t have any plans to redecorate or sell my home or do any of that kind of stuff. Not quite sure what it is about and I figure it is a pretty harmless hobby (until I quit taking care of other stuff!).

As I was listening to their promos, their phrase “Start at Home” really struck a chord in me.

Now the home you’re thinking of right now may be a physical place, like the ones HGTV hosts are talking about. It may be where you live, where you hang out with friends or family, get chores done, work on homework, or mow the yard, where you visit, or where you run from.

The home I’m thinking of at this moment is none of those. It is the home you carry with you wherever you roam, whatever you become, whatever you choose, whomever you meet, whatever you do.

It is your heart.

The center of your very humanness and beingness. The place where love resides, joy flourishes, and amazingness happens. And the physical place which some scientists call the “second brain”.

So I see “start at home” in a new light. What if we “start at home” by clearing away the debris and rubble in our own hearts? Gentling our own hearts, being love and kindness in our own hearts?

Not someone else’s…our own. Because truly, we can’t do anything about what someone else feels or thinks or does. We can only “do” this for ourselves!

Love you! Accept you! Be gentle with you! Be kind to you!

And when you start there, your light spreads out from you as if powered by the biggest generator in the world.

Yes, kindness really does start at home! Wow, who knew a cable channel slogan could carry so much information.

Love and light, hugs and blessings

“Home is where the heart is.”
Pliny the Elder

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Is Kindness A Religion?

My heart sings when I see the quote from the Dalai Lama which says “My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.” I dance for joy. I see possibility. I see peace. And I’m spurred on to be kindness even more.

So is kindness a religion? To me, the simple answer is “yes”. I am definitely aligned with the Dalai Lama on this one, especially if you look at one definition of religion from

“a specific fundamental set of beliefs and practices generally agreed upon by a number of persons or sects.”

I’ve always been fascinated by different cultures. Their belief systems, cultural norms, history, everything. In fact, before I went and got all practical and adult, I dreamed of being a cultural anthropologist…traveling to exotic places, building understanding among cultures and peoples, learning different languages. That didn’t happen…I traveled the road of business and practicality for the next 30 years. However, I never lost my passion for encouraging others through word and deed (although sometimes you wouldn’t know it as I got lost on the byways of sadness, depression, and cynicism).

Even with my immersion in the world of business and family and divorces and, well, life, I continued to study and observe other cultures. And one thing I found is that all of them have kindness and respect in common. It may look different ways or only be extended to members of their own tribe or be called something else. And it is there.

Kindness crosses every barrier there is and is not illegal, immoral or otherwise “not allowed” in any culture I am aware of.

Regardless of evidence to the contrary (if you read the news reports you might not believe there is kindness anywhere!), there is kindness to be found…by the ton! And now is the time in our evolution to focus on it and make it a “religion” of unity and acceptance.


Because without it, our world is doomed to tear itself apart at the seams and come crashing down around our ears.

Although 50, I am, in many ways, still the bright eyed little girl of 5 who believed in goodness and kindness. The more I clear away the learned crap, take my machete to the overgrowth of negativity that has grown up around me, and step into acceptance, the more I realize I believe in the power of a religion called “kindness”.

It drives me. It is my passion. It is my belief that it is one of the lights that chases away the darkness.

And I believe it is possible to change our focus and see kindness in all its forms, small or large.

So how about you? Are you ready for a religion that unifies rather than separates and divides?

What say you?

Love and light, hugs and blessings

“Despite everything, I believe that people are really good at heart.”
Anne Frank

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Does Kindness ALWAYS Work?

OK, Jerilynne, now you’ve done it. You’ve gone off the deep end, right? You spend gobs of time focusing on how to bring kindness into the world, to get people to understand how kindness can transform their lives. And you write a post asking whether it will ALWAYS work?

And you know why? Because it is a question I was asked. When I said “yes, it always works” the person looked at me as if I had grown horns and was breathing fire. He said “it can’t always work, nothing always works. I’ve tried what you said and it hasn’t done a thing”.

I could see he was discouraged because he truly does his best to be a Kindness Warrior and I honor him for that commitment. I’m so proud of the choice he has made to BE the difference he wants to see in the world. And I wanted to help him continue on his path because, you see, I believe it is VITAL to having peace and harmony in the world.

So I asked him two questions and they are the same questions for you to think about.

  • What are you expecting to happen?
  • What do you mean by “work”?

His response was “I didn’t get any response…no smile, no change, no thank you, no nothing. The person looked at me as if I came from another planet and even seemed to be scared of me”.

With his response, he gave me the clue to helping him with the next step on his path and it is simple, if not easy. Wanna know what the trick is?

It is letting go of your expectations and definitions.
That’s it.
That is all it takes.

When we focus on what we want to happen because of a kindness shared, we’re darned near guaranteed to be disappointed. Because we rarely, if ever, get to see the final outcome. Many of the things we do happen in a quick second…a thank you to a stranger, a few kind words, putting the grocery cart away, giving a helping hand…and then we’re gone. On to our next task or place to be.

We don’t know if our “thank you” is the one that turns the person’s day around and causes them to be kind to the next person in the checkout lane. Or our kind words mean the person treats their partner or child with kindness when they get home. And because of that kindness, the kid treats the other neighborhood kids more gently or….

Giving a kindness without expectation is like the pebble you throw into a pond…you have no idea how far the ripple effect will travel and no idea of the final outcome. You simply do it because you find it important and kindness is what you chose to focus on.

So, keep on BEING kindness, knowing, trusting, it will have the intended effect…raising the balance in the Universal Bank of Kindness (U B OK) and skyrocketing the world’s positive energy.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on whether kindness works…so leave your comment and let me know. Whether you agree, or disagree, I love hearing from you!

Love and light, hugs and blessings

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Can We Support the Troops and Not the War?

You know, war is never beautiful and never easy and this one has been so controversial and brought so much pain to so many. And it sucks. Period. I don’t agree with the premise or the actions taken in any way, shape, or form. If we look back through human history, focusing on killing doesn’t bring life and it doesn’t bring peace. It brings more division and more war and more anger and more hatred.

Many people protest the war, and I understand that. I don’t like this being the approach we’re taking to solve problems and get “over” differences. Given my druthers, we would live in peace and harmony, caring for all of earth’s inhabitants in a respectful and loving way. And, for the moment, this war is what is happening. It is the reality we all get to face.

AND when I see something like this video, I’m reminded that these are precious, amazing human beings caught in a conflict that many (if not all) disagree with. And yet, they are there.

So, what is to be done? How can 1 person make a dent in the anger, the pain, and the hatred? Sometimes it seems as if it is too big, too much. I’ve often looked around and thought “it is just too big, it is more than I can handle, I’m just one person. How can I do anything?”

In my opinion, the way we make a difference is to change our focus from what we don’t want to what we do want. The way we make a difference, whether it is to bring peace to the world or in our own home, is to continue supporting all amazing human beings with love and gentleness AND focus on bringing love and kindness wherever we are, whatever we do. The more individuals focus on these things, the less likely it is for us to be at war…in our hearts, in our homes, in our country and all around the world.

So, as you go through your day, I ask you to take a look around you and find something positive and loving to focus on and share with the world. Because we can make a difference, one act of love and kindness at a time.

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